What's the opposite of joyously calling all the siblings? Sending a disappointing postcard to your co-workers?
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NickleDimer
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Not calling them, then breaking into their house with the intent to make their children cry.
NickleDimer
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When Dmill cuts the cable, does het cut it in the same place every time? Does your old man have extra cable to fix right away?
My dad is a brilliant guy, but there is 0% chance he'd ever be motivated enough to reconnect cable himself.
NickleDimer
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What's his area of brilliance? Law? How does it come through to you? Does he talk shop or it just carries over to everything he does?
Guy was a great trial lawyer in his prime (30-40). He doesn't work much anymore, doesn't have the energy. Pretty sure he only does about 2-3 hours of work/day in his office (must be where I get my time management skills with 4.6 from).
He's slowly lost his talent, motivation over the last 20 years (and it's been pretty noticeable). He loves history and loves to talk about it even more. I'd say his passion on certain subjects has bled into my opinions on a few subjects (most notably, creation of Israel and WW2). My mom is smarter than he is though.
He's slowly lost his talent, motivation over the last 20 years (and it's been pretty noticeable). He loves history and loves to talk about it even more. I'd say his passion on certain subjects has bled into my opinions on a few subjects (most notably, creation of Israel and WW2). My mom is smarter than he is though.
NickleDimer
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How can you tell he slowly lost his talent and motivation? Is it just aging? Or did external factors contribute? Did his brother sabotage him?
Out of respect for his privacy, I'd rather not say what's affected his talent/motivation. But he keeps chugging along nonetheless.
I will say that his relationship with his brothers and his sister keep him going more than anything (almost equally to his immediate family). I'm sure he loves all his siblings equally, but I actually think A99 is his favorite.
I will say that his relationship with his brothers and his sister keep him going more than anything (almost equally to his immediate family). I'm sure he loves all his siblings equally, but I actually think A99 is his favorite.
NickleDimer
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Health? Marital? Substance? No details needed. Just been thinking about motivation and career arcs lately. Am I peaking now? How can I continue to grow personally into middle age? Stuff like that.
He's had some really tough health issues, but he's doing ok for now.
If you are in your 30's and don't love your gig you should work hard to find a change that is acceptable and pays the bills. Perhaps even something you are more passionate about. Don't stick with it if you cant see much improvement or dont like what you see when you look at the later versions of you in your company/field etc.
If that is not possible, start the process of learning a skill that can get you paid when you're in your mid 50's and suddenly unemployable. Say you are 33 right now - think of what you can know about something by 53. Stop having kids after this one. Don't get divorced. Begin conversations with a good friend who may have a similar situation and whiteboard ideas for the future. A good partnership is really helpful when taking risks or beginning the unknown. It's a big world, it needs help, and ideas still mean something. In fact they mean almost everything. Almost.
If you are in your 30's and don't love your gig you should work hard to find a change that is acceptable and pays the bills. Perhaps even something you are more passionate about. Don't stick with it if you cant see much improvement or dont like what you see when you look at the later versions of you in your company/field etc.
If that is not possible, start the process of learning a skill that can get you paid when you're in your mid 50's and suddenly unemployable. Say you are 33 right now - think of what you can know about something by 53. Stop having kids after this one. Don't get divorced. Begin conversations with a good friend who may have a similar situation and whiteboard ideas for the future. A good partnership is really helpful when taking risks or beginning the unknown. It's a big world, it needs help, and ideas still mean something. In fact they mean almost everything. Almost.
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Just to clarify, and maybe I'm misreading, why no kids after 33? Too hard to manage college kids in your 50s?
I envision myself getting married at 29-30 and have 3-4 kids over the next 6 years and stopping when I hit 37.
I envision myself getting married at 29-30 and have 3-4 kids over the next 6 years and stopping when I hit 37.
I had kids at the age of 33, 35 and 36. I had a partner who married a younger girl and had kids at 44 and 46. He's dragging ass. It's harder to have kids later. However, some people take better care of themselves and naturally have more energy. My sense is as you grow older you have less patience. Something children require in spades. Your timeline seems good in my book.
Know a guy who just had his first at 48. So he'll be dealing with a teenager in his 60s. That's awful.
In hindsight, wish I had a few in my late teens or early 20s like poor people. Must be nice to be 40 and kids are out of house already.
In hindsight, wish I had a few in my late teens or early 20s like poor people. Must be nice to be 40 and kids are out of house already.
NickleDimer
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gr8 point on the having kids as an old man. My neighbors had their first at 41 and are dragging as$. But that is all beside my main point. How does one remain a lively engaged professional deep into their career rather than just advancing into management and being a rote overlord devoid of creativity.
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I have some co-workers that had kids at 16 and 17 and still are moderately successful professionals. Their wives too. Don't know how they kept it together.
Most like the answer is to create something of your own, either within your current situation or more autonomously. A lot of people I know move companies a lot chasing something new to reinvirate themselves work wise. More of than not though the challenge is far more problematic and beyond their help.
Had my last at i think 41 - it's not the energy or the patience. He's been great for both of those things actually. Find myself with more of each - it's more the idea of him not on his own til I am in my early 60s'. It's also the expense of each one. Would not trade him for any amount, nor the others - very fortunate in that regard - but short of making double comma, it's a long road to free and clear. A non stop wave of cash out the door.
Had my last at i think 41 - it's not the energy or the patience. He's been great for both of those things actually. Find myself with more of each - it's more the idea of him not on his own til I am in my early 60s'. It's also the expense of each one. Would not trade him for any amount, nor the others - very fortunate in that regard - but short of making double comma, it's a long road to free and clear. A non stop wave of cash out the door.
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I would also worry about missing out on maybe not living long enough to see them grow into actual adults and spawn the next generation. Would like to attend a few MiniMiniDimer games before I croak.
I might need to find some more like minded individuals than in my current spot. I feel like I've got the creative juices, just not the support to do anything useful with it.
I might need to find some more like minded individuals than in my current spot. I feel like I've got the creative juices, just not the support to do anything useful with it.
If we're being honest and having a serious conversation, two things we don't do here, I would strongly recommend it and happy to discuss off line. I was fortunate to do it young but had the benefit of my initial foray with people who were much older and more successful than me. The benefit was I learned a ton from them and will always be grateful. The downside was I didn't know what I didn't know and after being there for 8 year left to do another thing where I was in a much better position. I could have never set myself up as well if I didn't learn the lessons from my previous gig. Which was a great gig and at that time in my life/career was probably a good spot. I simply held onto it too long and left a lot of money on the table as a result. However, you live and learn. The first experience really benefited me in the 2nd go round. My new gig has been the fastest growing in DC for 7 quarters running and Bloomberg just named us one of the ten best firms in the city. A lot of that has to do with people coming together who had previous gigs and wanting to put those lessons to work in something we own.
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I'm just happy I get to walk my Olivia to another failing underfunded public school in my city every morning
They were probably part of the greatest generation, sucking up all the money from us working schmucks.
NickleDimer
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Nah. They're in their mid-40s now. Men of character. Gr8 sense of humor and gr8 work ethic through it all.