I've been too much of a bitter old bastard lately. Help me out by sharing how you keep things light and remember to enjoy life.
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Give some time (and some money if you can spare a little) to a charity. Doing that makes you realize how good you've got it. If you don't know a good charity, try Inbound which helps kids and old people in poor countries. What's cool about it is that you get letters from the kid/person you help. I get a letter about once a month from Anyelo. He draws pictures in crayon on his letters as borders. Now he knows all about Pennsylvania and Villanova (even though he still can't spell them right) and hopes we win the NCAA championship this year. I'm sending him a VU t-shirt for Christmas. He may be our only fan in Bolivia
You are going to die. With 100% certainty.
No reason to (1) live your life shelled for fear of embarrassment, and (2) be the miserable prick youve been to everyone who actually likes to have fun. Shitting on other people's good time will not make your life more fun as a result.
No reason to (1) live your life shelled for fear of embarrassment, and (2) be the miserable prick youve been to everyone who actually likes to have fun. Shitting on other people's good time will not make your life more fun as a result.
Is there ever an appropriate situation to sh*t on someone else's good time? I need some rules. Does this include never sh*tting the 76ers just because their rebuilding project is some people's good time?
Give some time (and some money if you can spare a little) to a charity. Doing that makes you realize how good you've got it. If you don't know a good charity, try Inbound which helps kids and old people in poor countries. What's cool about it is that you get letters from the kid/person you help. I get a letter about once a month from Anyelo. He draws pictures in crayon on his letters as borders. Now he knows all about Pennsylvania and Villanova (even though he still can't spell them right) and hopes we win the NCAA championship this year. I'm sending him a VU t-shirt for Christmas. He may be our only fan in Bolivia
What about the kid from Haiti?
Here is some advice, stop thinking that you are funny.
Quit pulling your pud so much, smoke a good cigar, drink some good whiskey and go out and get laid......as ugly as you probably are, some beast will probably service you!!!!!
Dimer had a kid, moved and in general feeling the weigut of the world. He's probably not sleeping and ass is not a priority for the lady. Rally around and support the dimer. It's the pre-midlife crisis. Been there, very stressful and normal. However, as our inet friend and part of our community, support the dimer and most importantly, have empathy for his situation. Imagine walking a mile in his shoes. Shit got real. Hang in there dimer. If you want some real world big brother advice email me offline. Been there. Also, jerk off to your high school girlfriend, it helps.
Since you're one of my favorite BWers, let me share the following. I know it's cliche, but it is appropriate here........There are three kinds of people: dicks, pussies and assholes. Pussies think everyone can get along and dicks just want to f*ck all the time without thinking it through. But then you got your assholes, Dimer. And all the assholes want is to sh*t all over everything. So pussies may get mad at dicks once in a while because, pussies get f*cked by dicks. But dicks also f*ck assholes. And if they didn't f*ck the assholes, you know what you'd get? You'd get your dick and your pussy all covered in sh*t.
Don't be an asshole.
Don't be an asshole.
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A bit of an existential crisis. Oh well. I like the idea that successful stable people have similar ways about them. Not necessarily conformity, but approaches to adversity and self respect.
Great point. I'm definitely not funny, but enjoy the exercise of creativity that comes with the attempt of humor.
I enjoy a good nihilist Twitter parody. Nihilist Amaro was a good way to enjoy the 2015 Phillies.
I think you're loved on here for your sh*tting on everything schtick. Deep down, though, I think you're a pussy (in a good way) when it comes to the important things.
I know Dimer is basically a good guy. But, I think he went overboard with the shoot everything down routine. Just be yourself!
Irony is hilarious but it can tear you apart from the inside.
I agree with tjc in that happiness is best acquired when you focus outwards. Self examination is a good thing in general and makes you desirable to be around but doesn't fix anything for your own state of mind
I agree with tjc in that happiness is best acquired when you focus outwards. Self examination is a good thing in general and makes you desirable to be around but doesn't fix anything for your own state of mind
So you just moved from one part of the CoP to another? Or from the city to a suburb/exurb? That doesn't strike me as the type of life change that would cause such malaise.
Assuming Dimer is being truthful here in this thread, I am sympathetic to him.
Life is hard sometimes for some of us.
Life is hard sometimes for some of us.
Moved a couple miles away. Nothing crazy. Just a sh*t storm of mediocrity in my marital, parenting, finances, fitness, nutrition and professional efforts.
I hear that. I have taken a step back in a few of those areas recently but it allowed me to examine and clean out my closet in terms of my excessive partying and vanity.
For me, the important things are to avoid isolation (you can be in a room with people and still be isolating) and to confront potential problems as early as possible.
For me, the important things are to avoid isolation (you can be in a room with people and still be isolating) and to confront potential problems as early as possible.
What made you realize that it was critical to clean up those areas? Why did you prioritize them over other areas?
talked to this buddhist master-type lately (tulku lobsang is his name, he's real) and a big part of his whole thing is that you need to be healthfully balanced with sleep, food, and "love"
the sleep and food part is obvious - but very important. the love part he boiled down to trying to "like" people. and the way to do that is to help others and change yourself. trying to change others will lead to frustration and burnout, because it's never going to work. but if you can change yourself, you immediately change everyone else around you at once as a result (from a perception standpoint, or something like that)
there's a lot of obvious in it all, but there's something to it at the same time.
dont try to change the people around you. help them. change yourself
the sleep and food part is obvious - but very important. the love part he boiled down to trying to "like" people. and the way to do that is to help others and change yourself. trying to change others will lead to frustration and burnout, because it's never going to work. but if you can change yourself, you immediately change everyone else around you at once as a result (from a perception standpoint, or something like that)
there's a lot of obvious in it all, but there's something to it at the same time.
dont try to change the people around you. help them. change yourself
